Introducing your children to your new partner can be very stressful being the only parent because you are not sure about anyone’s reaction and how it will turn out to be. It can be challenging if you have a partner with children from a previous relationship. Their children sometimes keep reminding you of the previous relationship your partner had but if you follow the simple open relationship rules
, you can easily come over this problem and can live happily with your partner and their children.
Before introducing someone to your kids, you should think that are you really into that person and do you want your kids to meet? Is it the right time? Is it the right situation? Well, there are many things to consider; for which we have highlighted some of the main points here in this post helping you in taking the right decision.
Analyze your relationship:
First of all, you should analyze your relationship, at which stage of dating are you? You should look into the quality of your dating relationship before getting worried about how and when to introduce children. Everybody wants commitment and if your partner is totally committed and truly in love with you then it is the time to meet the children.
If your partner is honest with you, one should share each and everything, every problem that you people can face in the future and this all needs to be done before introducing to the children because once you have introduced your children, there is a chance of getting closer and if they get closer and frank, it will be really difficult to breakup for you and your children as well.
Be honest to your kids
The main fear of any children is to have someone else whom their parent love more than them. Once you decide that this relationship is serious and you want a serious commitment, you need to talk to your kid about commitments. You should initiate to make them realize that how important are your children to you and what do you want for their future. Ask your kids, what are you looking for in someone if we bring into our family? What are their expectations?
Type of Partner
Introduce your children to your partner when they have accepted the fact that you are single. When they are aware that their relationship with the other parent is over and might there will be some other person to get closed with. There is a possibility that before getting into a serious relationship, you might get number of dates but do not introduce your every date to your children, this will be disturbing for them. Try to reach on the level of relationship where you both are comfortable with each other.
Do not spend all of your time with your partner, give your children attention and make them realize that they are your number one priority especially when you are going to introduce them to someone they can be jealous with.
These are some things you need to keep in your mind before telling your children about their new parent.
Now the main part comes when you have to introduce them to your partner but no worries; we are also listing the things to concentrate on.
The First Meeting
Whenever you decide to introduce your children with your partner, make sure it’s somewhere at relaxing place where your children are comfortable going with anyone such as cinema or a park. Everyone should be relaxed, it is best for preventing awkward silences.
Introduce your date as a friend and keep everything light. Do not hold or kiss in front of your children. After some time, go away for few minutes so that your partner can have a good conversion with children and interact with them on his or her own.
Most children are unlikely to accept the fact that they will have to adjust with the new parent or called it as a step-parent. They might feel jealous; it is natural if you have been single for long time and have spent your all time with your kids.
You should give time to your children and ask them for their concerns and fears they have about the step-parent to make sure that they feel confirmed.
Spend some alone time with your children
There is no need of getting your partner everywhere with you, you need to spend some alone time with your children. For a while, keep it as simple as you can and introduce your partner as a friend. In some particular time, sit with your children and tell them about your relationship. If you and your partner have decided to move on together, you should keep you children in the process; ask about their decision in every stage of your relationship.
You can have a good relationship with someone with a kid, you just need to focus on some circumstances that will come on the way. There are some important factors to reflect and think about you, your partner and their children carefully because you will be the one called as step-parent. Do not treat them as your step-children rather love and respect them as they are your own children; this will also reflect on your relationship with your partner.
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